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Agressive Behaviour?

My Toddler has displayed aggressive behaviour towards other kids in social settings. What is the best way to react and to correct this behaviour?
Any advice?

I am currently attending a 5 week course on behaviour management and we are tackling this topic right now. I have a number of tracking sheets I could mail you if you'd like.
Once you track the behaviour it is easier to deal with.
Unwanted behaviours serve two purposes: to get something or to avoid something. That is step two, discover the function of this behaviour. In my personal experience a lot of aggressive behaviour functions to "get" something. Be it attention, an item the child wants to play with, etc.
It is up to us as parents and educators to replace the behaviour the child has come to find works (I.E. if I bite him, he will drop the toy I want and I can have it) with an acceptable alternative.
There are a number of ways to do this. Modeling and role playing work well. If you insert yourself into the situation and you can show your child what he could have done instead of what he did. Often aggressive behaviour in toddlers is a result of a lack of vocabulary. Model a phrase he coudl use instead of hitting, etc. A favourite of mine is "No, thank you! I don't like that!" It can be said with emphasis releasing some of the anger that the child feels and is a red flag for a parent/teacher. When they hear that phrase, come running to model/referee etc.
Praise any effort he makes, even if it is not entirely successful. Remember, even one less biting incident or tantrum is a success! Changing behaviour takes time. If they used their words instead of lashing out physically, reward that behaviour with lots of positive attention.
Repetition and consistency is key.
I would be happy to forward the paperwork I have received to you, via email or snail mail.

Andrea, I would love to have a copy of those. Working behaviors in school, it's always nice to have new ideas.

As for the behavior in a social setting. I would give him a time out. I do understand that it is hard when the child is still young. Like Andrea said, the lack of vocabulary is one of the biggest cause for this kind of behavior. I think it would also be important to make sure that your child learn to say sorry to the child he hurted (even if it's a hug). Once he get more words in is vocabulary, you'll be able to teach him what to say and also to teach him to tell you how he is feeling (mad, sad, etc).

No Problem Kappi, I will scan and email out copies to anyone interested. My last class is on the 14th, so give me a few days, there is quite a bit of content.

Me too please!

Ladies, packages should arrive this week.

Thanks Andrea! I did received it last wednesday (but didn't have time to look at it yet lol)

I am so glad they made it. Hopefully the other ladies that messaged me about it received theirs too.

Thanks Andrea I got the pkg too!